So often people use that phrase “don’t burn your bridges” or “you’ve burned all your bridges” in a condescending or cautionary tone.

The thing is, sometimes your spirit doesn’t want you crossing that bridge anymore. But we keep on. We keep tripping over it. You, like me, have probably done this over and over again…. Only to not learn the lessons the first time around. Maybe not the second or third.

The Universe wasn’t whispering “Road Closed” but loudly putting up detour signs and we were ignoring them. So they let us a few more times for a reason. We keep tripping over it.

It wasn’t fun but we had free will. The Universe allows us to use it until it is just out of hand.

So it allowed for our free will to teach us our own lesson. Until enough is enough and divine protection is required Maybe not to us…. But this is bigger than the “us” that traveled down that broken down road.

That’s when the Universe steps in. It burns the bridge (sometimes multiple) to the ground. Ashes and all. Then we get scared, or are saddened by the loss. Fearful of what we will do without that passage way to “nowhere we needed to be” to begin with.

Truth is; It became necessary in order for us to become aligned with our Higher Self. Sometimes we have to learn the hard way, over time.

So many times we can see this story unfold in a natal chart. We just do not always know where to look. It’s literally written in the stars. Often the reason why is right there in another house in a perfect axis. Other times the way out is there, too.

The best are those AHA moments where this is obvious. When we realize that if we had our own way; we would not have landed at the better place. The one where our soul wanted us to go all along….but we kept choosing to travel over dusty, pot hole ridden roads in an effort to cross the wobbly bridges. Those routes were only delaying our arrival to the wonderful destination we were destined to arrive at. Sure it is not comfortable getting that “No” when we thought we wanted a “Yes”… but it just wasn’t meant to be. So the ending was abrupt and heated. Too hot to try to mend. Because after all…If it were comfortable, we may try to go back from time to time.

Now when a bridge is burned; I try to stake a step back and not cry over spilled gasoline. I have begun to ask myself “how can I see this different”? “Would I be in a better mindset if I stopped to say “thank you”? If the answer is “no” …I try to trust that I haven’t developed the full picture yet. If you’re feeling curious to dig deeper, grab your natal chart and google your placements or call an astrologer. Often the answers are hidden in plain sight.